Africa-Press – Botswana. Communication is vital in building strong marriages and family ties.
Family therapist and marriage counsellor from Botho Speaks, Ms Botho Ntswaneng, said this during the 15th edition of the marriage seminar in Gaborone over the weekend, courtesy of The Marriage Builder.
She said married couples should understand that they were two different people with different desires and perspectives, adding proper ways of communication would graft and connect them for a common goal.
Ms Ntswaneng emphasised that it was important for couples not to yell at each other when expressing their concerns as that could fuel anger and aggression as well as distort the intended message.
“Most marriages and relationships never make it any far, this is because of lack of communication, people should refrain from the tendency to assume. They should instead express themselves well for clear understanding and reach a common fruitful agreement,” she said.
Ms Ntswaneng, who is also a gender activist, said communication should be honest and parties involved needed to listen and comprehend each other well, adding that through communication, it was possible to address some of the issues that continued to be a challenge in some marriages.
She said, through communication and understanding, it was easy for the couples to always reconnect and re-kindle their love despite the challenges they encountered.
For her part, founder of The Marriage Builder, Pastor Precious Kabelo, said the seminar was intended to accord married couples an opportunity to meet for revival and learn from each other.
“This is an opportunity to meet with different couples from all walks of life, to exchange information that will help couples to introspect, find empowerment ways and strive for healthy marriages and strong family ties,” she said.
Meanwhile, Apostle Mogomotsi Kabelo also from the Marriage Builder, underscored the need to always consider God as the pillar in efforts to build a strong marriage.
He said marriage was a journey with its ups and downs but when couples had faith in God, it was possible to overcome any challenges encountered.
In addition, he said the journey would always propel one to seek knowledge on how to handle and understand their partners, hence the need to always engage in empowerment platforms for informed decisions.
Apostle Kabelo further said love should not be based on feelings, instead, it should be a long-time decision that needs to be nurtured often.
“We should not love based on feelings, once feelings are gone so does love, when you are in love learn to embrace and complement each other, be there in the good and bad days, by so doing you will always find the need to nurture your feelings and revive the love you have for each other,” he said.
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