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Africa-Press<\/a> – Mauritius<\/a>. <\/strong><\/span>What really is the art of gratitude? Joanne Morton, CC BY-NC It\u2019s a new year, which means that it\u2019s also time to imagine new beginnings and better futures.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time, in short, for New Year\u2019s resolutions. Gratitude, in particular, has become a popular resolution. For many of us, living gratefully seems to promise more happiness in our lives.<\/p>\n

But what if we\u2019ve got gratitude all wrong? I began writing my book \u201cThe Art of Gratitude\u201d because I too believed that gratitude might offer an antidote to the anger, fear and resentment that characterize contemporary life.<\/p>\n

But as I read one self-help book about gratitude after another, it had the opposite effect on me. The more I read, the less grateful I felt. I came to ask, does the problem lie in how gratitude tends to be defined?<\/p>\n

The debt of gratitude<\/b><\/p>\n

Gratitude is often defined as a feeling of obligation and indebtedness toward those who give us a gift or help us out in some way. Consider how often many of us use the phrase, \u201cI owe you a debt of gratitude,\u201d or \u201cOne good turn deserves another.<\/p>\n

\u201d The debt of gratitude idea dates back to the foundations of Western culture, to Aristotle, Cicero and the New Testament.<\/p>\n

According to a leading contemporary expert on gratitude, UC Davis psychology professor Robert Emmons, \u201cTo be grateful means to allow oneself to be placed in the position of recipient \u2013 to feel indebted and aware of one\u2019s dependence on others.<\/p>\n

\u201d Or, as Emmons argues elsewhere, gratitude is \u201can acknowledgement of debt,\u201d and ingratitude \u201cthe refusal to admit one\u2019s debt to others.<\/p>\n

\u201d In this framework, people are debtors and the givers of debt. According to philosopher Shelly Kagan, \u201cIf someone does you a favor, you owe them something; you owe them a debt of gratitude.<\/p>\n

\u201d People judge the value of others based on what they can offer. Emmons writes:<\/p>\n

\u201cGratitude requires that a giver give not only a gift but also a gift dear to himself \u2013 a \u2018pearl of great price,\u2019 as it were.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u2026 The degree to which we feel gratitude always hinges on this internal, secret assessment of cost: It is intrinsic to the emotion, and perfectly logical, that we don\u2019t feel all that grateful for gifts that we receive that cost little or nothing to the giver.<\/p>\n

\u201d<\/p>\n

In other words, gifts and kindnesses involve a calculation of \u201ccost,\u201d which extends to repayment: Gifts are calculated gestures that must be repaid with an expression of thanks and, if possible, reciprocal gifts.<\/p>\n

Thinking in such terms might encourage people to see their relationships in economic terms \u2013 as transactions to be judged by market criteria of gain and loss.<\/p>\n

To that end, the Christian radio show host Nancy Leigh DeMoss advises keeping a gratitude journal just like a bank statement or a checkbook registry, as a place to manage gratitude debts.<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to encourage you to think of gratitude as being a debt you owe, the same way you\u2019re called upon to pay your monthly bills.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u201d<\/p>\n

The art of gratitude<\/b><\/p>\n

Gratitude is about more than individual happiness. My happiness is bound with yours and with everyone else\u2019s. Gratitude authors, who urge us to focus on the debts we owe to others, are reminding us of this fact.<\/p>\n

I, however, argue in \u201cThe Art of Gratitude\u201d that the rhetoric of the debt of gratitude sets us down a dangerous road. The trouble is that the value of our relationships cannot be calculated with numbers on the page, and trying to do so might make us miss out on what is most important.<\/p>\n

Take, for example, a recent gift I received \u2013 of a nice aluminum water bottle. A friend said that she saw it and thought of me. Of course, I thanked her.<\/p>\n

But rather than immediately calculate the cost of the gift and determine how I would repay her, I asked: \u201cWhy did you choose a water bottle?\u201d She told me where she grew up in the United States, she did not have access to clean water.<\/p>\n

I travel a lot, and she wanted me to take clean water with me wherever I went. Moreover, she hoped that it would help to cut down on plastic bottle waste, because, she said, we all share this planet.<\/p>\n

I might have missed all of this had I only pondered on how best to repay it. Instead, this gift prompted a conversation that reminded me of our fundamental interconnectedness. My actions, she was saying, impacted her life, just as her actions impacted my own.<\/p>\n

This interconnected world<\/b><\/p>\n

It is crucial to recognize that our daily practices of gratitude have broader social and political implications. Say I feel gratitude for access to clean air in Central Pennsylvania.<\/p>\n

I feel this gratitude because I grew up with asthma, and I know how hard it can be to breathe polluted air. I need not feel indebted to anyone for this clean air.<\/p>\n

Clean air is not a gift. I am grateful because clean air is necessary for life. Same is true for clean water. There is currently, however, a potentially grave challenge to clean water in Centre County, Pennsylvania, where I live.<\/p>\n

Looking through grateful eyes, attuned to the support necessary to live and thrive, I can recognize a threat to clean water as a personal threat. Though it is personal, it cannot be remedied alone.<\/p>\n

I must reach out to others who will also be affected, so that we can act together to manage it. The takeaway of my book is that indebtedness is not the only way to relate.<\/p>\n

Examples like these prove that all of us are deeply dependent upon the material support of the earth, and that also speaks to our interconnectedness. My resolution this year is therefore to practice the art of gratitude by imagining my life, and the world in which I live, as an opportunity, not a debt.<\/p>\n

I resolve to focus on what is necessary, and to work together with others to make it possible for all to live and to live well, because we live together.<\/p>\n

I hope that you will join me. Jeremy David Engels Sherwin Early Career Professor in the Rock Ethics Institute, and Associate Professor of Communication Arts and Sciences, Penn State<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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