CAN we have a world where rape and other forms of sexual abuse are not place? This was how it was when God created the world and everything was in order until Adam and Eve fell into the hands of the devil and things fell apart. Ever since then, rape and other forms of sexual abuse has been prevalent in the society, but the rate at which it is increasing daily calls for a holistic approach to tackle as if nothing is done the society will at a great loss. It was on he basis of this that Bisi Adewale, a seasoned family coach and marriage counsellor came out with a new book titled Protecting Your Children From Sexual Abuse.
Protecting Your Children From Sexual Abuse; Bisi Adewale; Living Home Ventures Ikeja, Lagos; 2019; PP. 163
The 163 page book of 23 chapters published by Living Home Ventures Ikeja, Lagos seeks to open the eyes of parents on the need to protect the lives of their children from paedophiles in our society.
The author opens in Chapter one with 51 heartbreaking and real-life stories of past sexual abuse victims. Many of these victims, now adults, shared stories of what happened to them when they were younger. Some were as young as four years old.
Chapter two and three reveals what sexual abuse is, how a child can be abused and indicators of sexual abuse.
The factors that increase the possibility of sex abuse and 30 myths and facts about child abuse are treated in chapters four and five, while chapter six tells the reader possible reasons why adults sexually abuse a child.
The prolific writer who has written over 92 bestselling books on family life in chapters seven, eight and nine looks at the long term effects of child sexual abuse, mistakes parents make about sexual abuse and practical ways to protect a child from abuse.
The next three chapters examines how and when children tell about sexual abuse, 14 ways to handle child sexual abuse and the differences between sex education and sexualisation.
The dangers of not training your child about sex education and sexual predators are closer than you think formed chapter 12 and 13. According to the author, recent statistics on child sexual abuses shows reasons why parents should be careful about people they trust with their children’s upkeep. A study revealed that about 80% of sexually abused children have been abused by people known closely to them (Uncles, Cousins, Aunties, Teachers, spiritual leaders, Neighbours, Nannies, baby sitters etc.)”
Indicators or signs that a child is being sexually abused are also revealed in the book while factors that predispose a child to sexual abuse are also mentioned.
In the book, readers will be exposed to mistakes parents make that exposes their children to sexual abuse; what to do when a child is sexually abused; how to prevent abuse and how to protect children from abusers. It also outlines some of the benefits of sex education.
The latter chapters focuses on how to give an age-grade sexual education by giving a practical guide on how to educate toddlers, pre-scholars, grade-scholars, pre-teens and teenagers formed the latter chapters.
They need to learn how to identify predators and paedophiles, know when their children are been sexually abused and what to do are also discussed. The book which is available on several books outlets is a well researched book that is recommended for every family.
