Africa-Press – Angola. It is difficult for most women to measure a guy’s effort of persuading them towards an affair and compare same with his passion and purpose in the sought relationship.
In a scale of (im) balance a 100 per cent effort may be effected by a frivolous guy who ain’t attaching any motion unto the exercise.
He is just a “hit and run” guy and nothing more. It is unfortunate that in their inability to decide that, women find themselves stuck with these fancy-free and foot loose guys whose hobby is stringing women along without any intention to invest true love unto them. In the event she agrees to date him she will throw herself aze atjele tihlobo, bangani nabazali imbala kutsi yena uganeGabriel.
Women have been hurt, disappointed, impregnated, emotionally and physically abused in relationships. In all essence, most men who do the latter to women would have been habouring a frivolous spirit. You know, Scales can tell you, some women would hear “wedding bells” from such conniving negotiations. She would tell friends kutsi, abatfungise and they would laugh their lungs out.
Bayamati bona lomfana lamganile, yena akamati-kahle!There are many reasons why men are frivolous and one of them is that they are just being boys. They would do a lot of things even if they are dangerous or hurt others just for fun.
Scales can bet you, a man can go an extra mile so that he can sleep with this particular woman. He may just be attracted to her physical outlook kufune kumcumba phansikwesilwane. He needs and applies the same effort of persuasion to win her over, first into a relationship and then into bed. He may be with her for as long as he is enjoying loMcukutfu.
These cunning guys study her habits very well and would often times plant themselves where she is likely to be so that they become a familiar sight and acquaintance with her. It could even be in church wherein the lad ucala kusontsa aze adlalene organ for the church so that he could get this girl.
The imbalance occurs when women confuse the added effort and believe it is genuine love. The guy is here only for sex developed from a physical attraction and probably has a girlfriend out there he would never leave for you. Scales is reminded of this young man who dated a beautiful social butterfly and was the envy of the entire young three legged animals of the society.
When he announced that he was getting married, all and sundry were certain he was marrying Nomazwe. Nay! It was Sibizelwe, a lady, he told the congregation was the love of his life. Some of the young girls who knew of his affair with the other woman were whispering among themselves, “Yebonine, kantsi bafana banjani?”They were reading unto their own love lives and wondering if they weren’t being taken for a ride like Nomazwe.
You can imagine what goes on in the mind of a woman whose boyfriend prefers another woman over her when all along she thought she stood on solid ground.
The guy simply walks away,straight into the arms of another woman and down they walk the aisle together, akhona abuka naye anemabele lamabili and all precious properties like the woman preferred over her.
Inhlitiyo yendvodza ayiphakelwa mani, iphakelwa ngumniyo njengemphaka!
Force
A group of college boys were discussing a the female student who seemed to have no time for love relationships ever since she was registered as a Mathematics and Science student. They all agreed that lugagane lolwa, akudlalelwa khona.
Not only that, she had never been seen with a man even outside campus yet she was engaging, imposing and a beautiful force to be reckoned with. The boys’ talk provoked inkhani yekungehlulwa yintfomabatane from one Mangaliso who vowed that iyawulala ibonene nalodzadze so he could prove to them that yena angamcumbaphansi.
They dared him and he accepted the challenge by approaching her on the spur of the moment on her way to the dormitory. Frequently, thereafter, they were seen together libeka lelijaha and each word provoking endless smiles “kulolugagane”.
It wasn’t long before everyone could tell that selitfobile litfokati, Lo and Behold! Lijongosi seliyalibeka libiloentsanyeni yalo- what today’s people ask for, “Give me a hug!” She threw all of herself unto the affair because she truly believed it was all about love, lenganwa yayikhomba busoka bayonje.
Not only was she disappointed by the fact that the guy had many beautiful girlfriends all over, he seemed not to care that she was hurting. He would even have his girlfriends visit him at college. She picked a fight with him over one lady whose frequency in the college she had lost count of.
The guy told her never to dare go that far, “Hhayi ke ngaNomfutfumalo, yinhlitiyo yami leyo.”She would have jilted the man but discovered she was pregnant with his child.
Depression
She was forced to drop out, gave birth and became a single parent. Still the guy was not moved, that was not his first child. The woman went into a massive depression that needed expertise psychological intervention due to disappointment and hurt. She gave her love and life to the crooked and cunning- like many women really!
Sometimes the motive is spurred by proximity and availability. The woman is just close by and does not seem difficult to talk to. She could be a neighbour, a work mate or a wayfarer in regular or frequent trips bese kubakhona ke lokunhhinhhitela from the guy, however, with no strings attached.
The work-from- home impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic got two young souls to spend quality time together. It started off by greetings over the fence wherein the woman would even show outside her house in flimsy sleepwear.
The guy realised she was an easy target and started serious negotiations that weren’t seriously parried off. They dated and spent time in each other’s houses day in and out. When the woman’s boyfriend showed up someday, she could only open the door half way, “Unganngeni, ngiPositive.” She terminated the affair with him immediately he left and continued naleSkelmsakanext door.
She thought they had something serious and was not opposed to the idea that they give up one house and co-habitat. The first sign of trouble was that the guy hardly had money for the basics in the house from rentals to food. He was of the habit of disappearing on weekends because he claimed he had a project at home.
The love inside her heart barred her from confronting the inequality in expenditures. This weekend, after six month of being together, the gentleman informed her, something needed his urgent attention at and home, he would leave on Wednesday and be back after the weekend. Three weeks later, on a weekend, she was confronted with beautiful pictures of the same guy, alobola sibhalabanesakaMatsebula eLuve.
Pictures just don’t lie. She cried the whole afternoon and confronted umjita ntsambama, he could not deny anything. He confessed, he loved LaMatsebula hence the ceremony splashed all over the papers for the world to acknowledge the woman he truly loved!
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