Africa-Press – Botswana. Renowned motivational speaker, Dr Kgomotso Jongman says emotional counselling is some form of therapy vital in helping individuals adjust and manage their emotions when faced with challenging circumstances.
Conducting a counselling session during the International Day for Widows in Molepolole recently, Dr Jongman said the day was set aside to offer therapy to widows.
Organised by Widows Walking Together Society of Botswana, the International Day of Widows was commemorated under the theme: Orphans in Need.
Dr Jongman said human beings were exposed and raised under different backgrounds, hence react differently when faced with challenges.
Equally, he said individual widows would grieve the loss of their partners differently and therefore the healing process would differ as well.
“Do not allow someone to tell you that it was time to move on, get other companion who will help you discharge your sorrow,” said Dr Jongman.
He said a counsellor’s role was to help the grieved to fade rage and gather appeasement. However, he said the process of healing was solely dependent on an individual’s reaction.
He said during the journey of grief there was an array emotional ebbs and flows and in some cases making the grieved to develop a state of denial, failing to admit that his or her partner was gone forever.
Dr Jongman said the scenario was one’s emotions recalling the good memories with the one whom they were used to living with.
After suffering such a loss, Dr Jongman said it was acceptable for one to sometime feel depressed.
He said a short time depression deserve an approval adding that an intolerable kind of depression was the one that took more than a fortnight, calling for abrupt attention by a psychosomatic expert.
Dr Jongman said admitting that someone was no more did not mirror that one no longer loved or had forgotten the deceased but it meant that one had to start to new leave of live hence accommodating the loss.
Widows were also warned that suppression of emotions intrigued villainy.
Dr Jongman said holding grudges would not be of any good as they were cases where a widow would be suspected for having a hand in the death of the spouse.
However, Dr Jongman has applauded widows for opening up and healing the scar of sorrow.
He said loss of a loved one was not the end of the world but a beginning of another chapter of the story of life.
Dr Jongman encouraged them to do away with holding grudges against people who scrambled for their property, claiming to inherit it after the passing on of their spouses.
He said they must find it in their hearts to forgive them and move along with life.
Dr Jongman encouraged widows that whenever they felt that what they going through was weighing on them, they must never hesitate to approach a psychologist.
He said emotional counselling assist in changing one’s perceptions and cope with challenging circumstances.
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