Africa-Press – Mauritius. Recently, a trend called “unserious generational trauma we are breaking” has gained popularity on social media platforms like TikTok. It’s a trend that takes a humorous look at some habits that have been passed down through the generations and suggests that maybe, just maybe, it’s time to let them go.
The concept of generational trauma, often referred to as generational curses, has become a hot topic as parents seek to avoid the mistakes of their own upbringing.
In this lighthearted piece, we’ll explore some of these common habits and shed light on why it’s time to let them go. Needless to say, it’s not a personal attack on anyone’s culture or traditions.
Visitors’ cups and plates Many people are familiar with the habit of setting aside, mostly brand-new, cups and plates, kept only for visitors’ to use, while the household members are banned from using them.
It’s quite ironic that the broken and ugly ones are subjected to everyday use, while the nicer and newer ones are trapped in a perpetual state of anticipation, longing for the day when they can finally fulfill their destiny and be put to good use by someone, perhaps more worthy?
It’s time to let go of this unnecessary distinction and make our everyday dining experiences just as special for every household member. Yes, even children!
‘Special’ clothes Ah, it’s practically an unwritten rule that one must preserve their “Sunday best” or “fancy duds” solely for momentous occasions.
But what if that day never comes, and we’ve only ever seen you in your go-to t-shirt, never knowing white shirts actually flatter you? Dress up! Every day is an opportunity to make life a little more special.
Beating kids for accidents Let’s face it, accidents happen. Besides, who punishes us as adults when we break things? Yet, we understand only too well the value of things better than children.
If a child accidentally breaks something like a glass or plate, resorting to punishment and physical discipline is unnecessary and traumatising. Broken dishes can be replaced, but a child’s emotional scars might not heal as easily.
Buy actual food containers Every home has at least one ice cream tub, margarine, or powdered milk container, etc. , that is actually filled with salt, sugar, or other common spices, seasonings, and household items.
Well, this is your cue to throw them away! Invest in proper containers to maintain cleanliness and organisation in your kitchen. The snack-thieves’ dilemma
Trying to keep snacks, or sugar, milk, Nutella, and other treats out of reach from your kids might seem like a good idea until they turn into pint-sized adventurers, scaling cupboards and fridges like fearless hikers.
Instead of creating tiny thieves with broken legs, consider open communication and setting reasonable boundaries. It’s amazing what a little talking can do. Messy play
It’s interesting how parents want their children to play but don’t want them to get dirty! Yet, outdoor activities and playgrounds are inherently dirty places.
It’s either you let your kids be kids, allowing them a little time for exploration and learning through hands-on experiences. Or you carve them into miniature adults with neat clothes, which is, well, absurd! The mealtime fights Many children have been forced or beaten to eat at some point in their lives.
It makes total sense that as the adult in the room, you understand the need to serve them greens for their meals, but it’s also important to remember that children don’t possess the mental capacity to deprive themselves of food willingly unless there’s an underlying issue, like illness.
So, perhaps lend an ear next time they tell you they are not hungry for the moment? A relaxed mealtime is a happier mealtime. Apologies and vulnerability
Apologies are not a sign of weakness; they are a sign of maturity and respect. It’s okay for parents to admit when they’re wrong and apologise to their children.
This teaches kids valuable lessons about accountability and helps strengthen the parent-child bond. So go ahead, say those two magic words, “I’m sorry.
” I promise you will still be the bigger person! Express love Saying “I love you” should never only be reserved for special occasions or kept hidden.
Make it a habit to express your love to your children, family, and friends regularly. Verbalising and showing affection doesn’t mean you are ‘soft’, it helps strengthen relationships and creates a positive emotional bond.
Remove the plastic coverings! Finally, it’s time to let go of the habit of keeping plastic coverings on furniture “to keep it nice. ” Furniture is meant to be used and enjoyed, not encased in plastic for protection.
This also applies to your TVs, phones, laptops, and other gadgets. Keeping their plastic coverings sacrifices comfort and aesthetics. And if they tear or wear, would it be that bad to consider buying new furniture, gadgets, etc.? Come on, have a little faith, ambition, and positivity!